It will soon be Thanksgiving, when we gather with family and friends to eat, drink, and probably watch more than a little football. We think of it as a day of rest and the opportunity to indulge in mom’s buttery, herb stuffing and, of course, warm apple or pumpkin pie, loaded with a generous portion of fresh whipped cream. We complain about the calories, but that doesn’t stop us from having seconds.
In 1863, Abraham Lincoln declared Thanksgiving a national holiday. It was partly inspired by Sarah Josepha Hale, who wrote letters and editorials to the government for 36 years, advocating for a holiday that promoted unity across the nation. There is no doubt that Lincoln knew the time was right for such a holiday, with the Civil War in its third year and no sign of peace and unity.
The proclamation itself addressed the nation’s civil strife. It acknowledged the suffering and loss of many, the need for healing, and the end of the war. It also called for gratitude for the shared blessings of our country, “the blessings of fruitful fields and healthful skies”.
While we often picture the Pilgrims and Indigenous people sharing a harvest meal, the Thanksgiving we know today owes much to a different chapter of history.
I had no idea that Thanksgiving Day promotes national unity, the end of suffering, and gratitude for this country. This gives Thanksgiving a whole new flavor (pun intended). In some ways, Lincoln’s call for unity in a time of national division still feels as relevant now as it did then.
As a communication coach, I dedicate my time to helping people connect and communicate more effectively through deep listening and compassionate speech. When we communicate this way, unity isn’t an issue because it comes from genuine interaction, even when agreement isn’t achieved. When we aim to understand each other, we realize that diversity and unity can coexist. The question is, are we willing to become a bit more vulnerable and listen when we’d rather just pass the mashed potatoes? Your call.